SATURDAY POST: 8 * 17 * 2013

Today was one of the most important days in my daughter's life and I missed it! Does that make me a poor parent, a bad mother? I really hope not. I missed it because I had to go to work. I am the main income for my family. I take my responsibilities very seriously. I also want to be the best mom ever. It is challenging to do both. I requested the time off and it was denied. I did everything I could to try to be home for my daughter and I failed her. She will never tell me that, she may not even feel that way, but I do. I feel like I let her down and that is not the mom I want to be. I am so sorry I was not here for you today and I hope it never happens again. It is a promise I want to make to you, unfortunately I am not in a position to make that promise at this time. As long as I work for someone else and I am not the one calling the shots, I can only try. And try I will - that I can promise you.

I would like to know what causes people to want to ruin other people's lives? Denying vacation request time is a very powerful controlling move. You have just proved to me and others that you are in control, in power. You can move the pawns around at your will.

I am sure this is an age-old issue. I am not the first to experience it nor will I be the last. I want to think there are kinder, gentler bosses that would not do this. Hopefully those bosses are alive and well and treating their staff with respect. Someday I may even work in such an environment. For now, I do not. 

I want to apologize to my daughter for missing such an important day. You know I love you, I am proud of you and I will always be there for you in spirit. Even after I have left this physical world, I will be there for you. You are the best daughter anyone could ever have. I consider myself fortunate to have you in my life. Thank you for being you!

Good Luck and Godspeed on the most important day of your life. You will do amazing because you are amazing!

People's Court Blog: July 28, 2013: Watching other Shows, Animal Rescue and Weight Loss Journey Update

People's Court has been repeat episodes. The shows are still an insight to our behavior, but it is time to branch out and talk about other shows.

American Ninja Warrior

What an inspirational show! This is about people and an obstacle course. Pure skill, stamina and a little luck thrown in! The goal is to reach Mount Midoriyama in Japan and now a recreated Mount Midoriyama in Las Vegas. Here is a blog from someone training and competing: 

                                              http://americanninjawarrior.com/tag/mount- midoriyama/
He can explain so much better. The competitor profiles are truly inspiring! They make me wish I was an athletic person. Please watch and let me know what you think!

King & Maxwell

Pure entertainment. You laugh and cry and enjoy the entire cast of this show. The interaction between King & Maxwell remind me of Moonlighting! Please watch and let me know what you think!

Boy Meets World

An oldie but a goodie! I am enjoying the earlier episodes when the kids were really young. What a great show. I am looking forward to the new show, Girl Meets World. It has big shoes to fill, please do not disappoint!

Thank you for joining me today. Continue watching television and please share your thoughts and favorite shows with me!

Please check out this animal rescue group and find it in your heart to support their efforts. 

Many of the fundraisers are NO COST TO YOU!

http://www.petfinder.com/shelters/NJ617.html

Shopping Fundraiser:

 

Weight loss journey update - here it is almost one month later and I have kept off the 6 lbs. I feel really good about that. I have continued with drinking more water each day, not eating after 9 pm and eating more fruit than I usually do. Incorporating these healthier habits into my daily lifestyle has made me feel so much better. The glitch is that I have an injury and I am not able to exercise as much as I would like to. Still the slow and steady approach is a sure way to keep the weight off. I have not tried the intermittent fasting yet. I am reading about it and find it intriguing. I would like to incorporate it one day a week into my schedule. I will continue to try to eat better and limit the sweets!

People's Court Blog - Monday - July 8 2013

The show today is a repeat.

Lizbeth is not happy with the services from Steve, a lawn care specialist. She wants all of her money back from a contract signed with Steve - $3406.00. Lizbeth claims that not only did her lawn not get better, it actually got worse. She is accusing Steve of putting something on the lawn to kill it and grow weeds and then she says she does not think he put anything on the lawn. Besides the fact that her approach does not make sense, she has no proof. Her new lawn care specialists did not provide any information that Steve did not do his job. She does not get her money back. Court is about proof, not just being unhappy with services rendered! What do you think?

Randolph is suing Hugh for $2652.34. Hugh was behind Randolph at an intersection. He admits he is at fault, he "tapped" the back of Randolph's car. Hugh offered Randolph $100.00 on the spot. Randolph refused it but does not call the police. It is very important to call the police when you have a car accident, even if it is just a "fender bender". The two men do exchange insurance information, that was a good idea. Hugh seems to think that Randolph was committing insurance fraud, he accuses him of switching cars. It seems that Randolph sold his car and then registered the car he was driving the day of the accident only the day before. The paperwork takes time to catch up. There was no insurance fraud, but it does seem Randolph is trying to take advantage of the situation. Hugh testifies that Randolph called and wanted $1400.00. The estimate is almost double that amount. The Judge believes that Randolph asked for the $1400.00 and that is the amount he is awarded. It is never a good idea to try to negotiate a settlement and then go to court and ask for more money. What do you think?

Kim is suing Erica for $2521.05. On June 2nd, Erica's 2 dogs jumped out of the window of her car and went after Kim and her little dog. Her dog was not hurt. It costs over $1000.00 to find out all was good with her little dog. Erica admits it is her fault and is willing to pay the vet bill. She did not feel she was responsible to pay for a missed day of work 10 days after the attack and acupuncture treatments. Kim states that she re - injured her back when she was fighting off the dogs. She is also suing for pain and suffering due to nightmares she now has since the attack. The Judge finds in favor of Kim for $447.50, the balance of the vet bill and part of the acupuncture treatments. Kim does not get lost wages and pain and suffering, she is not able to prove these elements. It is never a good idea to drive with the windows open enough for a dog to jump out. The dogs will jump, no matter how well trained they may be. Erica understands she is financially responsible for what her dogs caused. She did not want to pay for all of the "extras". I do not blame her. I feel really bad for her that she now has to fight to get her dogs back. I wish her luck!

Now, please join me as I embark on a weight loss journey. On July 1st, I decided to start eating healthier. I have been trying to lose weight for years. Many attempts at fad diets and weight loss programs. Now, I will try a new approach. Drink lots of water, do not eat after 9 pm, eat healthy snacks and ... I will try to incorporate small changes to my daily lifestyle. Major changes are a road to failure. Small changes are attainable. I am going to continue these changes for this week. I am also reading about intermittent fasting. I want to try it, I just need to find the right time to start...any day now!!!

Week 1 weight loss: 6 lbs - great job!  - keep up the good work - stay motivated!!!!

Surprise Tuesday Blog: RESPECT in the Workplace: June 18, 2013

A familiar theme: Respect.

Why do people feel the need to treat each other poorly in the workplace? 

The workplace: this is somewhere you spend much of your time. You spend more time at the workplace than you do at home. Think about it, your co-workers should become a second family. Maybe they do! Family feels very comfortable to treat each other poorly, we see it all the time. People's Court is a place where we see family suing each other all the time. So why am I surprised that co-workers and bosses have the audacity to treat others with less than RESPECT.

I am at my job for many years. I have always treated my co-workers and superiors with respect and expect the same in return. It does not happen.

What happened to The Golden Rule? Do unto others as you would expect them to do unto you. This is something we learn in kindergarten or before if you have parents that teach it. The practice of public humiliation is not expected in the workplace. Someone who chooses this approach as a way to manage their staff is severely lacking in ... oh so much!

When you have good people working for you, it is time to acknowledge and appreciate them. For over twenty years, I was treated with respect and then ... a change in management. How quickly things can change.

Which brings me to the next question ... Why does someone who gets power and control abuse it?

I am thinking this is an age-old question with many answers and yet, no answers. A study in human nature. What I do know is that we are all people who deserve respect from each other. We need to be at work. We need to feel appreciated on some level. I know, I know, we get a paycheck, we should not expect thanks. But ... we should not get treated poorly. What do you think?

Shout-out  to Megan!

Please share your thoughts in the comments. Maybe together we can figure this out. 

Thank you for joining me today.

Please check out this animal rescue group and find it in your heart to support their efforts. 

Many of the fundraisers are NO COST TO YOU!

http://www.petfinder.com/shelters/NJ617.html

Shopping Fundraiser:

 

Friday - June 14, 2013: Roach Infestation

Monday's People Court episode had a very interesting case: it is about a roach infestation.

According to Magda, the landlord, who is suing Abe, the exterminator, for $1500.00 - there were ZILLIONS!

Magda has lived in the house for 37 years and said she has only had a roach problem once before. She hired Abe and he treated for the roaches and came back several times. She is not happy because the roaches were not dying. Abe explains that there are two processes for killing roaches: spray -  that is applied every 2 weeks or gel -  that takes 2 weeks to work and has a residual effect. He did not spray in her apartment because her husband was on oxygen and spray would not be safe.  Abe said they returned several times after the initial treatment, he never explains why he stopped going back. Obviously the problem was not solved because Magda had to hire another company to solve the problem. She does not have the written contract with her that she had with the new company but says she paid them $600.00.

Magda said the new company sprayed since her husband was doing better - she was not worried about killing him  - they have been married for 53 years!!!! Wow - that is a really long time!

Magda explains the new company solved the problem. She gets back $750.00 of the $1500.00 paid to Abe.

Very interesting that Magda does not have to show the payment to the new company, yet gets her money back. I think this is because she is very credible in explaining the situation.

Congratulations to Magda for getting rid of the roach infestation. It sounded like a nightmare to have ZILLIONS of roaches in your home. I am surprised she continued to live there until the problem was solved. What do you think?

Please share your thoughts in the comments. Thank you for joining me today! 

Please visit fundinco.org to help the animal rescue group I support! Thank you!

 

Friday: June 7, 2013: RESPECT

Hi Readers,

Sorry to have been gone for so long. So much is happening and I have not been able to write. I am back and want to share something with you. I am fascinated by the way people treat each other in everyday life. Have you noticed that a certain level of respect for each other is MISSING!!!! How do we get it back? I am perplexed by the decline of everyday communications. Here is an example of a conversation overheard in an office:

Administrative Assistant to IT person as he/she was walking past: Excuse me, I have a stupid question. Can you help me?

IT person: There are no stupid questions, just stupid people that ask them.

Really! Is this an appropriate response to someone who is asking for help? I know the usual response to that question is: There are no stupid questions. Why on earth would the IT person not give the cliche answer or just respond: What can I help you with? The cliche answer puts people at ease. The answer given puts people down. It is insulting. In the workplace we do not expect to be insulted by our coworkers. Is this a sign of the times?

I am having a real problem with this. Please let me know what you think. Also, please share  experiences you have had with the lack of respect that seems to be prevalent in our day to day life.

Thank you for reading! Please visit the following site and help support a worthy animal rescue organization. There are many ways you can help support them with NO COST to you!!!!!!!!!

http://www.petfinder.com/shelters/NJ617.html

Let us all return to the GOLDEN RULE:

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

People's Court Blog - Saturday - April 27 2013

A week of new shows!!!! This is great. I am so glad there are new cases. 

Here's one that makes you think about how someone can get away with being a con artist. 

Steven is suing Jeff for $3700.00. This is for the cost of a New England Patriots jersey that belonged to Tom Brady. Also, he has included the cost of authenticating the jersey.

Jeff is a huge Patriots fan. He claims the jersey is fake and that Steven is a con artist. Jeff provides so much evidence to the Judge to prove that Steven is a forger and that he uses aliases when he sells items on eBay.

Jeff purchased the jersey on eBay from Steven and tried to have it authenticated. The evidence he provides to the court is proof that the jersey cannot be authenticated. Why is Steven allowed to sell fake items on eBay? It seems the FBI and local police has been investigating. Steven says this is nonsense and he was never arrested. When Jeff contacted Steven to let him know he was not happy with the jersey, his money was refunded. Even though he got the money back he did not return the jersey. He has it with him in court and hands it over to the Judge. She does not want to smell it because she does not believe it belongs to Tom Brady!!!!!

The Judge rules that the jersey needs to be returned to Steven. She lets him know that she is watching him. Hopefully he will stop cheating people. Jeff is happy that he was able to bring Steven on national TV and let everyone know to be aware!!!!

Why do people feel the need to cheat others? It is hard enough in this difficult economy to make ends meet! To have to worry about scams and con artists is an extra burden, but one we must all be watchful of!!!!!! Buyer beware!!!!!! What do you think?

Please share your thoughts in the comments.

Check out this animal rescue group, they do great work!

http://www.petfinder.com/shelters/NJ617.html

Help them raise money - with no cost to you!

Please support them - check out their unique fundraisers!