SATURDAY POST: 8 * 17 * 2013

Today was one of the most important days in my daughter's life and I missed it! Does that make me a poor parent, a bad mother? I really hope not. I missed it because I had to go to work. I am the main income for my family. I take my responsibilities very seriously. I also want to be the best mom ever. It is challenging to do both. I requested the time off and it was denied. I did everything I could to try to be home for my daughter and I failed her. She will never tell me that, she may not even feel that way, but I do. I feel like I let her down and that is not the mom I want to be. I am so sorry I was not here for you today and I hope it never happens again. It is a promise I want to make to you, unfortunately I am not in a position to make that promise at this time. As long as I work for someone else and I am not the one calling the shots, I can only try. And try I will - that I can promise you.

I would like to know what causes people to want to ruin other people's lives? Denying vacation request time is a very powerful controlling move. You have just proved to me and others that you are in control, in power. You can move the pawns around at your will.

I am sure this is an age-old issue. I am not the first to experience it nor will I be the last. I want to think there are kinder, gentler bosses that would not do this. Hopefully those bosses are alive and well and treating their staff with respect. Someday I may even work in such an environment. For now, I do not. 

I want to apologize to my daughter for missing such an important day. You know I love you, I am proud of you and I will always be there for you in spirit. Even after I have left this physical world, I will be there for you. You are the best daughter anyone could ever have. I consider myself fortunate to have you in my life. Thank you for being you!

Good Luck and Godspeed on the most important day of your life. You will do amazing because you are amazing!

Christmas Day 12 25 2012

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is enjoying this Christmas Day. Hopefully after the new year there will be new episodes of People's Court and the blog will resume. I miss writing about the cases. All of the recent repeat episodes have been featured in the blog posts.

 

This is a good week to reflect. I have been thinking about the decisions we make. Do we have other people's interests in mind or just our own? Do we try to be selfless or selfish? Many of the cases do show the selfishness and the mean spirits that motivate people. Are we to believe that people are inherently bad? I do not like to think that way. When we are faced with the senseless tragedy of the Newtown shootings, it does give you pause. Yet, the heroic stories that came from this tragedy give renewed faith in the human spirit.

 

Life is very complicated and we can only try to do our best. If every action is met with the question, " "Will someone be proud of me for doing this?", the outcomes would be so different. People need to start caring about their actions and the effects on others. We do not operate in a vacuum. Everything we do has an effect on someone else. A smile or "Have a nice day" can make all the difference in the world. How many times does it lift your spirits when someone behaves this way?

 

I hope everyone thinks about their effect on others. For every action, there is a reaction. Love, caring and trust mean so much. This is the season we think about family and friends and want the best for everyone. Let us put our differences aside and care about others. It should not take a tragedy to motivate us to commit acts of kindness. Let us try to work that back into our everyday lives.

Wishing Good Health and Happiness to All During The Holiday Season and for 2013!