SATURDAY POST: 8 * 17 * 2013

Today was one of the most important days in my daughter's life and I missed it! Does that make me a poor parent, a bad mother? I really hope not. I missed it because I had to go to work. I am the main income for my family. I take my responsibilities very seriously. I also want to be the best mom ever. It is challenging to do both. I requested the time off and it was denied. I did everything I could to try to be home for my daughter and I failed her. She will never tell me that, she may not even feel that way, but I do. I feel like I let her down and that is not the mom I want to be. I am so sorry I was not here for you today and I hope it never happens again. It is a promise I want to make to you, unfortunately I am not in a position to make that promise at this time. As long as I work for someone else and I am not the one calling the shots, I can only try. And try I will - that I can promise you.

I would like to know what causes people to want to ruin other people's lives? Denying vacation request time is a very powerful controlling move. You have just proved to me and others that you are in control, in power. You can move the pawns around at your will.

I am sure this is an age-old issue. I am not the first to experience it nor will I be the last. I want to think there are kinder, gentler bosses that would not do this. Hopefully those bosses are alive and well and treating their staff with respect. Someday I may even work in such an environment. For now, I do not. 

I want to apologize to my daughter for missing such an important day. You know I love you, I am proud of you and I will always be there for you in spirit. Even after I have left this physical world, I will be there for you. You are the best daughter anyone could ever have. I consider myself fortunate to have you in my life. Thank you for being you!

Good Luck and Godspeed on the most important day of your life. You will do amazing because you are amazing!

Surprise Tuesday Blog: RESPECT in the Workplace: June 18, 2013

A familiar theme: Respect.

Why do people feel the need to treat each other poorly in the workplace? 

The workplace: this is somewhere you spend much of your time. You spend more time at the workplace than you do at home. Think about it, your co-workers should become a second family. Maybe they do! Family feels very comfortable to treat each other poorly, we see it all the time. People's Court is a place where we see family suing each other all the time. So why am I surprised that co-workers and bosses have the audacity to treat others with less than RESPECT.

I am at my job for many years. I have always treated my co-workers and superiors with respect and expect the same in return. It does not happen.

What happened to The Golden Rule? Do unto others as you would expect them to do unto you. This is something we learn in kindergarten or before if you have parents that teach it. The practice of public humiliation is not expected in the workplace. Someone who chooses this approach as a way to manage their staff is severely lacking in ... oh so much!

When you have good people working for you, it is time to acknowledge and appreciate them. For over twenty years, I was treated with respect and then ... a change in management. How quickly things can change.

Which brings me to the next question ... Why does someone who gets power and control abuse it?

I am thinking this is an age-old question with many answers and yet, no answers. A study in human nature. What I do know is that we are all people who deserve respect from each other. We need to be at work. We need to feel appreciated on some level. I know, I know, we get a paycheck, we should not expect thanks. But ... we should not get treated poorly. What do you think?

Shout-out  to Megan!

Please share your thoughts in the comments. Maybe together we can figure this out. 

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